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I am trying to grab words and put it together to express my amazement as a mother. I saw a video of a small boy reciting shahada to his little sister on her death bed, a little girl keeping her wasiya (declaration a person makes whilst alive regarding their property), toddlers staying strong after losing parents... If Allah made us witness these then definitely it is for a reason.  How did these mothers achieve to plant such strong, calm, brave, beautiful souls filled with Imaan?  The foundation of Tawakkul. The ability to see hereafter in front of their eyes with yaqeen. The amount of sabr. The smile of contentment. The dhikr of Allah in a very difficult situation. We are struggling, planning, learning, taking notes on how to become a better parent. Subhan Allah!!  These children and their parents living and the shaheed have shown us what is the  REAL TARBIYA or in simple words nurturing. May Allah forgive us our shortcomings and help us fulfill the responsibility h...

The world was so excited and anticipating the arrival of 2020. But as the pandemic kept spreading we hardly noticed the whole year just flew by, and here we are already standing at the edge of it still finding it difficult to believe 2020 is ending. Indeed it is very sad we lost so many of our friends and relatives in a year and it is only by Allah’s mercy that we are still breathing. Alhamdulillah!! Let’s try and reflect on the year 2020 😧We are completely helpless. The situation around the world proved to us once again that man is helpless without his Lord. We realized once more Allah controls us, the world and everything else. 🧼Importance of Hygiene Washing hand with soap and using sanitizers have become the new norm. At all time whether we are in a pandemic era or not, clean habits always helps. 🤷‍♂Human beings are social animals Yes we learned this in our school days, but we actually felt it today when we were not allowed to mingle with others and had to stay isolated. 👩‍💻Tec...

It was an unexpected knock on our doors when everything was going fine.We heard about covid virus and how it’s spreading like fire. Soon the fear started growing in our hearts. I was no exception. In the initial stages it took time for all of us to realise what was happening, we never experienced something like this before in our lives. To be honest, I had a feeling everything will be normal within weeks, but then I learned this is not something that simple, starting with the schools one by one everything started closing down eventually the masjids. It was all happening so quickly while we were still trying to figure out the scenario. Our norms were not the usual norms anymore. The schools became online, offices work at home, malls, parks and beaches locked down. We all were saddened that the masjids closed when Ramadan was nearing. A ramadan with no taraweeh, no iftar gatherings, no social life at all. Insights *There was so much chaos happening in the world, when I read a particular ...

We are all well adapted to home environment by now. Our children have learned to accept their new schools as zoom, Cisco, hang out and the list goes on. How are we embracing the new changes in our life? Being a mother of two, and communicating with like-minded moms, I got to learn a lot during these two months. Initially we were perplexed when we heard schools are coming to our living rooms. As parents, we were so curious to know how all this is actually going to happen. We had our doubts, and confusions. But to our surprise the schools came forward fully equipped and prepared to fight the battle. Salute to the government and all the schools as a team for it. We parents always want the best for our child, which is quite natural, may be that is why we tend to criticize. We are overwhelmed with the pouring worksheets, incessant home works, solid projects and submissions together with home making. I have wrapped up some notions in this article that might help reduce our anxiety. ...

A very easy word to utter is “sorry’’. It has the ability to heal broken hearts, forget the past, remove physical pain, wash away ego, dissolve anger and a whole lot of other advantages. Then why is it so difficult for us to utter it when we know we have done something wrong? A husband finds it very difficult to say sorry to his wife when he knows he hurt her feelings; sons or daughters shrug off when asked to apologize to their mother whom they have disobeyed; a brother does not say sorry to his sister when he has broken her favorite toy, and the list goes on. In most cases, we find a third person forcing one to say sorry to the other. Only in very few cases does a person voluntarily say sorry. Have you ever given a thought why saying sorry is like a tedious job for all of us? The main enemy of “sorry’’ is our own ego.   Ego is when you are wrapped in yourself to the extent that you become unable to see or hear what others around you are feeling. This is when you...

Our world has changed so much and there’s constant pressure on us to run with it. We are working hard to make a living but forget to live. We are so engrossed in this race that even worship turns mechanical sometimes. How then do we break this cycle of worldly engagements, and fix our priorities? Here are a few ways we can try to keep the spiritual side of ours alive and more active.. Being patient This isn’t as easy as it sounds. However, the best way to control our frustration during trials is to feel blessed. If we try to imagine the state of those people who are suffering all over the world, and who are in a worse position than us, we will be more grateful and content. The Prophet    ﷺ   said: “Look to those below you and not to those above, as it is more suitable to remember the blessings of Allah granted to you.” (Bukhari & Muslim) Expressing Gratitude We should never think twice to say thank you to our spouses, parents and immedia...