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I am trying to grab words and put it together to express my amazement as a mother. I saw a video of a small boy reciting shahada to his little sister on her death bed, a little girl keeping her wasiya (declaration a person makes whilst alive regarding their property), toddlers staying strong after losing parents... If Allah made us witness these then definitely it is for a reason.  How did these mothers achieve to plant such strong, calm, brave, beautiful souls filled with Imaan?  The foundation of Tawakkul. The ability to see hereafter in front of their eyes with yaqeen. The amount of sabr. The smile of contentment. The dhikr of Allah in a very difficult situation. We are struggling, planning, learning, taking notes on how to become a better parent. Subhan Allah!!  These children and their parents living and the shaheed have shown us what is the  REAL TARBIYA or in simple words nurturing. May Allah forgive us our shortcomings and help us fulfill the responsibility h...

We are all well adapted to home environment by now. Our children have learned to accept their new schools as zoom, Cisco, hang out and the list goes on. How are we embracing the new changes in our life? Being a mother of two, and communicating with like-minded moms, I got to learn a lot during these two months. Initially we were perplexed when we heard schools are coming to our living rooms. As parents, we were so curious to know how all this is actually going to happen. We had our doubts, and confusions. But to our surprise the schools came forward fully equipped and prepared to fight the battle. Salute to the government and all the schools as a team for it. We parents always want the best for our child, which is quite natural, may be that is why we tend to criticize. We are overwhelmed with the pouring worksheets, incessant home works, solid projects and submissions together with home making. I have wrapped up some notions in this article that might help reduce our anxiety. ...

Schools closing, long vacation and the little minds wandering at home. Worried about how and what to do these days you are secluded in homes?? Options are many, let's try to keep it productive.   As a first step 🤫 whisper : “patience” to yourself. Read on 📝 Make a plan. Include that which your kids love (every child is unique). For example : Read a story, learn an ayah, go for a walk etc. The simpler the better. 🎨 Buy some art kits, clay dough, color pencils, coloring books, word search books, puzzles, story books whatever suits your kids age and likes. These can engage them every day for a long time. 👩‍💻 Search online for easy craft ideas and explore with children. 🖌 Collect glass bottles to paint on, reuse cereal boxes, tissue boxes and so on to make new stuff. Kids love creativity. 🧸 Take out all those toys hiding inside the toy box for ages and see the happiness when the child discovers these are still alive. 🧹 Engage them in household chores like cl...

I was watching an ad on YouTube with my kids recently and it got my attention. The ad was about a gadget watch that asked a kid to do chores within a set time limit.  The kid’s parent set it in advance, then the kid marked the action before going to the next one.  Meanwhile, the parent tracked the child on his phone. The child brushes his teeth and the mother, while sitting on the couch in the living room, checks to see if the chores are being done. The related videos that came along were similar, like a mini robot that talks and entertains the child all the time and a bottle of water that helps the parent track the amount of water the child drank.   I don’t know why I found it weird.  Modern or strange? It might be a great tool to make children responsible or entertained, but my personal opinion is that we as humans can replace all these gadgets.   I am sure that there will be a lot more gadgets aiming for children that parents will spend a lot o...

  A house that never stays clean and children who have a mind of their own. What can you do to stay calm? You have finally finished the dishes and the kitchen looks tidy, but the surprise waiting for you in the living room raises your blood pressure so much that you lose control over yourself The floor you wiped just moments ago is littered with toys, biscuit pieces and juice spilled all over. Being a mother, the biggest challenge I face is being patient at so many such incidents in everyday life and I believe it’s the same with the majority of us. Let me admit: I FAIL in most of the cases! For us, patience is extremely important since Allah has mentioned it several times in the Qur’an and the rewards for it really quite tempting. وَاصْبِرُوا ۚ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ and be patient. Indeed, Allah is with the patient. (Qur’an 8:46) إِلَّا الَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ أُولَـٰئِكَ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَأَجْرٌ كَبِيرٌ Except for tho...